Learning to be who I know I want (and Christ wants) me to be

 

I am sure there are a lot of people who will give me flack for this particular entry. There's that touchy word..... SUBMISSIVE!!!!! There are a lot of people that don't understand my position on this, and that's ok. Before I even start, I would like to say that I will welcome feedback, as long as there is no foul language, no bashing, and no degrading. Do we have a deal?

 

 

So, how many of you ladies out there will openly admit to being a submissive wife? How many of you know what that means biblically? How many women see that word, and think "Not this woman!" I can't begin to tell you how many snide, rude, and down right nasty comments I have gotten from people simply because they don't understand my lifestyle. Now, do I think that it is fear that brings about this reaction? ABSOLUTELY!

 

 

Before I go any further, I would like to say that this is a choice I made while praying to God for an answer. I prayed on this for a very long time. I waited to hear from Him before I made ANY changes to how I was living.

 

So here we go. Am I a submissive wife? Yes! Am I happy? Yes! Am I a doormat? NO!!!!! This is where a lot of people look at me and tell me I am crazy. My husband is the head of my household. He works, manages all the money, yes you read that right, ALL the money. He does outside work when he is home. I am manager of my home. I cook, I clean, I take care of our son, I go to school online, and I make sure our home is running smoothly. I keep track of where we need to be and when we need to be there. I take care of all the small details and large ones of our everyday lives. My husband has the final say in the big things, and that is perfectly ok with me :).

 

Now, do not confuse submission with abuse. ABUSE IS NEVER OK!!!! I think a lot of people hear submission and automatically think I am a doormat. That is not the case at all. The only way I can explain it is this:

Say you are building a house. You have all the rooms just the way you want them built. Down to the very last light fixture. But what is that house without foundation? I am that foundation. My husband is absolutely amazing, he is the house. He provides for us. He cares for us. He is the main structure and support of our house. I make sure that house stays together. I make sure that house doesn't sink, sag, or crumble. I am the foundation that keeps it all together. Make sense?

 

There is something else though. Without a foundation there would be no house. Without the house, the foundation would be useless. What my husband and I have in this relationship, we hold each other together. We give each other purpose. We give each other strength, stability, and comfort. Just because the word submissive is there, doesn't make me less important. My husband would be the first one to tell you that without me, life would be chaos LOL!

 

So before you judge, criticize, or think someone is just "hiding", think again. This is my calling. This is where I am meant to be. I am the teacher of the young, self controlled, care giver to my husband and son, happy, homemaking wife!!!

 

God Bless and Keep Smilin'

 

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